Guides · November 3, 2026

60 questions to ask your partner

Even couples who have been together for years still have things they never asked each other. These questions are sorted by mood, so you can pick a light set for a car ride and a deeper one for a quiet evening. One tip before you start: answer separately first, then compare. It is much more fun when nobody can adjust their answer after hearing yours.

Light and funny

What is the most "us" thing we do?
If we had a reality show, what would it be called?
Which of my habits did you find weird at first and now secretly like?
What snack would you choose if you could only eat one for a year?
Who would win in an argument with a customer service bot, you or me?
What is the silliest thing you have ever googled?
Which fictional couple are we most like?
If our pet could talk, what would it complain about?
What would your walk-up song be?
Which chore would you pay someone a lot of money to never do again?
What is a hill you would die on that makes no sense?
Who is the better driver, honestly?

Getting to know you better

What did you want to be when you were ten?
What is a small thing that makes your day better?
Which song takes you straight back to being a teenager?
What is something you are proud of that you rarely mention?
What do you do when you need to recharge?
Which family tradition do you want to keep?
What is a skill you would love to learn this year?
What was your favorite place as a child?
What does a perfect Sunday look like for you?
Which friend knows you best, and why?
What is the best advice you have ever been given?
What scares you more than it should?

About us

When did you first know you liked me?
What is your favorite memory of us from this year?
What is something I do that makes you feel loved?
What is our best inside joke, and how did it start?
When do you feel closest to me?
Which of our dates would you repeat tomorrow?
What do you think we are really good at as a team?
What is something new you would like us to try together?
What did you learn from our last disagreement?
Is there something you wish I asked you about more often?
How do you like to be comforted when you are upset?
What is a small way I could make your week easier?

The future

Where would you like us to live in five years?
What does a good life look like to you at 70?
Which trip do we absolutely have to take together?
What is one thing you want us to save up for?
Do you want us to have a pet, and what kind?
Which tradition would you like us to start?
What would you do if money were not a question for a year?
What is a dream you have not told many people?
How do you picture our home on a normal weekday evening?
What do you want to celebrate more often?
What would you like to be better at as a partner?
What are you looking forward to most this year?

Deeper, for a quiet evening

What is something you are still learning to forgive yourself for?
When did you last feel really understood?
What do you need more of from me right now?
What is a belief you have changed your mind about?
Which moment shaped you the most?
What do you find hardest to ask for?
What makes you feel safe in a relationship?
What is something you wish you had been told when you were younger?
How has being with me changed you?
What is a worry you carry that I might not know about?
What would you like people to say about you one day?
What do you want to thank me for that you never said out loud?

How to make the questions a habit

One question a day works better than 60 in one sitting. Pick one at breakfast and talk about it at dinner.
Write your answers down before you reveal them. It keeps the answers honest.
Don't grade the answers. The point is to learn something, not to pass a test.

Where Axolove fits

Axolove has a question of the day for couples: you answer on your own phone, and your partner's answer shows only after you have written yours. Answering also feeds your shared pet. There are games for two as well, like guessing how your partner will answer, "who of us" and a weekly check-in that reveals once you have both replied.